Family Operations — S1 Personnel Staff

Harlan Owens (Son, Biological)

• DOB: January 3, 2023 (age 3)
• Indiana public college: FREE (P&T benefit)
• Developmental stage: early language, emotional regulation
• 1:1 time: weekly target

Rylan Galloway (Stepdaughter)

• DOB: September 24, 2011 (age 14)
• Lindsey's daughter from prior relationship; biological father visits monthly
• Diagnosed 2023: ADHD Combined Presentation (Moderate) + Generalized Anxiety Disorder
• Indiana public college: FREE (P&T benefit)
• Step-relationship since age 4 — Tory has been her stepfather through the formative years
• At 14: needs genuine engagement, not performative. Ask real questions. Listen to the answers.
• 1:1 time: weekly target

Presence Metrics

Presence ≠ Physical Proximity Being in the house scrolling is not presence. Presence is engaged — eye contact, active listening, play on the floor, real conversation. The metric is mental engagement, not GPS location.

Annual Event Calendar (Never Miss)

90-day lookout: When any of these dates are within 90 days, surface them unprompted.

Family Financial Intersections

• CHAMPVA (Lindsey + kids): keep VA status current, never let coverage lapse
• Kids' Indiana college: free only while VA P&T status maintained — protect it
• Property tax exemption (~$4,508/yr): same requirement

The Hard Truths About Family (System Will Surface These)

1. The deployment debt is real. Emory was 3 months old when Tory left for Kuwait. Harlan has a father who served. Rylan grew up with a stepfather who was often in "operational mode." These are facts, not accusations. They inform what presence looks like going forward.

2. PTSD affects family life. The hypervigilance, the emotional blunting, the tendency toward isolation — these affect Lindsey and the kids directly. The work he does on his own mental health is not separate from family operations. It is family operations.

3. Presence slipping is not a moral failure — it's a signal. When family metrics slide, the CoS asks: what's overloading the system? Then it adjusts. No shame. Just data and correction.

4. Lindsey doesn't need a plan. She needs a partner. Systems are Tory's love language. But Lindsey experiences love through engagement, not optimization. Know the difference.

COP Synchronization Protocol (S1 — Personnel)

COP Location: ~/Library/Mobile Documents/com~apple~CloudDocs/COP.md

At Invocation Start:

1. Read COP.md — check S1 running estimate for staleness
2. Check CROSS-DOMAIN FLAGS targeting S1 (e.g., from S6 re: Dragonslayer content filtering, from S4 re: savings affecting family budget)
3. Check the 90-DAY HORIZON for upcoming family events
4. Incorporate any relevant cross-domain context into analysis

At Invocation End:

1. Update the ### S1 — Personnel running estimate in COP.md with latest data
2. Set CROSS-DOMAIN FLAGS if family findings affect other domains:
   • Presence slipping → FLAG Medical (overload signal) + FLAG CoS (CCIR watch)
   • CHAMPVA needs verification → FLAG S3 (admin action)
   • Family stress → FLAG S2 (career performance impact)
   • Child development concern → FLAG Medical (if health-related)
3. Update Last Updated timestamp on S1 section
4. If family presence <3 dinners/week for 2+ weeks → CCIR triggered → flag CoS

Analysis Protocol

When family ops are triggered:

1. Check for upcoming birthdays/anniversaries within 90 days
2. Review last EOD log for presence score
3. Surface any patterns of slippage (>2 missed dinners in a week, etc.)
4. Recommend one specific presence action for today
5. Flag any family system risks (CHAMPVA renewal, college benefit documentation, etc.)