Israeli Wedding Planner

Per-Plate Cost by Region and Venue Type

Day-of-Week Pricing

Seasonal Pricing

Negotiation tip: Close deals with vendors in winter, even for summer weddings. Vendors are more willing to negotiate when their calendar is empty.

Rabbinate Registration (Tik Nisuin)

Timeline

Open a marriage file at your local Religious Council 21-90 days before the wedding. Do not leave this to the last month.

Required Documents

Process Steps

1. Gather documents -- collect all items above
2. Visit local Religious Council -- both bride and groom must appear together
3. Interview -- the Rabbinate official verifies Jewish status and eligibility
4. Schedule chuppah -- the Rabbinate assigns a mesader kiddushin (officiating rabbi) or you request your own
5. Bride's mikveh visit -- required before the wedding, typically 1-7 days before
6. Wedding day -- mesader kiddushin conducts chuppah, signs ketuba, witnesses sign

Common Rabbinate Pitfalls

• Kohanim cannot marry divorced women or converts (must verify before planning)
• If parents married abroad, additional documentation proving Jewish status may be required
• Some Religious Councils have long wait times -- book early
• The Rabbinate-approved mesader kiddushin is free; choosing your own rabbi is optional and additional cost

Vendor Selection Guide

Israeli Wedding Platforms

Vendor Categories and What to Check

AKUM (Israeli Musicians' Union)

Any public performance of music at a wedding requires an AKUM license fee. The fee varies by event parameters (check current tariffs at acum.org.il). This covers royalties to songwriters and composers. Either the DJ/band or the couple pays it -- clarify in the contract. Without it, the DJ risks a fine.

Wedding Timeline Template

12 Months Before

• Set budget and guest count estimate
• Book venue (for summer weddings, book 12-18 months ahead)
• Start Rabbinate document gathering

8-10 Months Before

• Book photographer and videographer
• Book DJ or band
• Choose wedding dress (allow 4-6 months for alterations)

6 Months Before

• Book makeup artist and hair stylist
• Order invitations and save-the-date magnets
• Book florist/designer

3 Months Before

• Open Rabbinate file (tik nisuin)
• Finalize guest list
• Arrange transportation (shuttle bus if needed)

1 Month Before

• Final dress fitting
• Confirm all vendors in writing
• Prepare seating chart
• Bride schedules mikveh visit

1 Week Before

• Confirm final guest count with venue
• Prepare wedding day timeline for vendors
• Groom's aufruf (Torah reading on preceding Shabbat, if applicable)

Wedding Day

• Kabbalat panim (reception): bride and groom greet guests separately
• Badeken (veiling): groom covers bride's face
• Chuppah ceremony: ketuba signing, ring, sheva brachot
• Yichud: couple's private moment after chuppah
• Dinner and dancing

Guest Management

Israeli Wedding Norms

Matana (Cash Gift) Expectations

Guests typically give cash to cover their plate cost plus a small addition:

• Close family: 500-1,000 NIS per person
• Friends: 300-500 NIS per person
• Colleagues/acquaintances: 250-350 NIS per person
• Couples: Double the individual amount

Examples

Example 1: Budget Wedding Planning

User says: "We want to plan a wedding in Israel for under 100,000 NIS"

Actions:

1. Suggest weekday (Sun-Wed) in winter for lowest venue pricing
2. Target periphery venues (Sharon, Shfela) for 200-280 NIS/plate
3. Limit guest list to 200 (realistic budget: 200 x 250 NIS = 50K for venue)
4. Allocate remaining 50K across photographer (8K), DJ (5K), dress (5K), design (3K), Rabbinate (710), and contingency
5. Recommend negotiating in winter months even for spring/summer dates

Result: Detailed budget spreadsheet with per-vendor allocation.

Example 2: Rabbinate Registration

User says: "What do we need for the Rabbinate? Our wedding is in 2 months"

Actions:

1. Flag urgency: must open tik nisuin at least 21 days before
2. List all required documents (see Rabbinate section)
3. Check if registering in home city (no teudat ravakut needed) or elsewhere
4. Remind about bride's mikveh scheduling
5. Mention that Kohanim have marriage restrictions -- ask if relevant

Result: Document checklist with timeline for completion.

Example 3: Vendor Comparison

User says: "We're comparing 3 venues in the center, how do we decide?"

Actions:

1. Create comparison table: per-plate price, minimum guests, included services
2. Check if price includes DJ setup area, chuppah structure, parking
3. Ask about rain backup plan (critical for garden venues)
4. Verify Rabbinate kashrut certificate for each venue
5. Suggest visiting on the same day of week as planned wedding

Result: Side-by-side venue comparison with total cost projections.

Bundled Resources

References

• references/wedding-budget-calculator.md -- Detailed budget template with Israeli cost benchmarks
• references/rabbinate-checklist.md -- Step-by-step Rabbinate registration guide with document checklist

Gotchas

1. AKUM Fee Surprise

Agents often forget the AKUM (Israeli Musicians' Union) license fee when calculating music costs. This is mandatory for any public music performance at weddings. The fee varies by event parameters (check acum.org.il for current tariffs). Always include it in budget calculations and clarify in the DJ/band contract who pays.

2. Rabbinate Deadline Window

The tik nisuin must be opened 21-90 days before the wedding -- not earlier, not later. Agents may suggest "start as early as possible" but the Rabbinate will reject applications filed more than 90 days out. Conversely, less than 21 days leaves no buffer for missing documents.

3. Sefirat HaOmer and Three Weeks Restrictions

Agents commonly schedule weddings during the 33 days of Sefirat HaOmer (Pesach to Lag BaOmer) or the Three Weeks (17 Tammuz to 9 Av) when traditional Jewish weddings are not held. Always check the Hebrew calendar before suggesting dates.

4. Per-Plate Does Not Include Everything

The per-plate price at Israeli venues typically covers food and basic hall rental, but NOT: DJ setup area rental, valet parking, design/flowers, external catering surcharges, or Shabbat early-closure surcharges. Always ask what is and isn't included.

5. Kashrut Certificate Mismatch

The Rabbinate requires the venue's kashrut certificate to be from the local Religious Council (Rabbinate), not from a private kashrut organization (like Badatz or Mehadrin). If the venue only has private kashrut, the Rabbinate may not approve the wedding there.

Troubleshooting

Error: "Rabbinate rejected our application"

Cause: Missing documents (most commonly parents' ketuba or teudat ravakut) Solution: Contact the specific Religious Council to ask which document is missing. If parents' ketuba is lost, request a copy from the Rabbinate where parents married.

Error: "Venue price increased after booking"

Cause: Contract may allow price adjustments for guest count changes or menu upgrades Solution: Review the original contract. Israeli consumer protection law requires written agreements. If no written contract exists, the verbal price should hold -- consider filing a complaint with the Consumer Protection Authority.

Error: "Cannot find mesader kiddushin"

Cause: Did not request through Rabbinate or private rabbi is unavailable Solution: The local Religious Council can assign a mesader kiddushin at no extra cost. For a specific rabbi, contact them directly and then inform the Rabbinate of your choice.